yup, that is why everybody in the BDSM community hates 50 Shades. it is not a book about BDSM, it is a book about domestic abuse with some rope thrown in.
yup, that is why everybody in the BDSM community hates 50 Shades. it is not a book about BDSM, it is a book about domestic abuse with some rope thrown in.
Twelve monkeys, eleven hats. One monkey is sad.
not heard of it
Twelve monkeys, eleven hats. One monkey is sad.
Mid-late 90's 'cult' favourite.
I think they've just done a Blu-Ray release.
It explores the BDSM scene via a sort of rom-com type thing. Features numerous actual S&M performers. Well researched, and fairly well made for a no-budget British film.
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Feminists are taking over Ghostbusters!", men say. "They’re ruining our childhood!"
Meanwhile little girls everywhere can no longer safely Google My Little Pony.
Uncomfortably fair point.
Also 50 Shades has always struck me as a bit vile, but the justification I always heard is that A, it's all consensual and she willingly signs a contract, and B, she falls in love with him and it's all happily ever after. This sounds more like coercion into an abusive relationship tied down by shoddy legality, in which the victim eventually gets Stockholm Syndrome...
Given that I'm unwilling to ever read that bloody book out of principle, it worries me if it's the latter.
Read the above in a Tachikoma voice.
I have not read it myself. contracts are not uncommon in these relationships, but don't actually mean anything, they are just symbolic. It also is not all consensual, which is a big part of the problem. I have heard that at one point in the book she uses her safe word, and he carries on anyway. that is simply rape.
Twelve monkeys, eleven hats. One monkey is sad.
The thing I find interesting about it is that it's not even really a male power fantasy - it's reviled almost universally by men and most of us find it incredibly confusing that it is, or was, so popular with women.
Read the above in a Tachikoma voice.
Well women are socially conditioned to see men being aggressive and not taking no for an answer as romantic, and rough housing when young as showing affection so 50 shades is really the extreme extension of that mindset. Like it isn't "normal" but portrayed as risque and "hot" as it's so extreme but it's the same concept.
[url]http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19085605[/url]The thing I find interesting about it is that it's not even really a male power fantasy - it's reviled almost universally by men and most of us find it incredibly confusing that it is, or was, so popular with women.
[url]https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201001/womens-rape-fantasies-how-common-what-do-they-mean[/url]
In short: Fantasies let us take risks without actually taking risks.
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[URL="http://store.steampowered.com/app/319630/"]Life is Strange[/URL]They get mad when people discuss the social aspects of other games
They get mad when people make their own games with their own messages
They really just need to stop playing games entirely because they sure as hell don’t understand the real world or actually important things