So ... if you can answer that way, here's my take on the issue of men writing women. I don't think the question should be, "Can a man write a woman as well as a woman could?" We may as well ask whether a non-veteran can write soldiers as well as a veteran can, or whether a non-combat veteran can write soldiers as well as a combat veteran can, or whether a professional author can write secret police as well as a secret policeman can, and on and on the line it goes.
I submit that the question we should be asking is, "Does writing this character as a woman make the work stronger than writing the character as a man, or not writing the character at all?" Sometimes the answer to that question is no, but I think the answer is yes more than you are giving authors credit for.